Thoughts on Singleness

A few resources relating to singleness in the blogosphere recently:

John Piper:

• Single in Christ: A Name Better Than Sons and Daughters

I will start and end with my main point and, in the middle, cover a wide terrain of Scripture to support it. My main point is that God promises those of you who remain single in Christ blessings that are better than the blessings of marriage and children, and he calls you to display, by the Christ-exalting devotion of your singleness, the truths about Christ and his kingdom that shine more clearly through singleness than through marriage and childrearing. The truths, namely,

1. That the family of God grows not by propagation through sexual intercourse, but by regeneration through faith in Christ;
2. That relationships in Christ are more permanent, and more precious, than relationships in families (and, of course, it is wonderful when relationships in families are also relationships in Christ; but we know that is often not the case);
3. That marriage is temporary, and finally gives way to the relationship to which it was pointing all along: Christ and the church—the way a picture is no longer needed when you see face to face;
4. That faithfulness to Christ defines the value of life; all other relationships get their final significance from this. No family relationship is ultimate; relationship to Christ is.

To say the main point more briefly: God promises spectacular blessings to those of you who remain single in Christ, and he gives you an extraordinary calling for your life. To be single in Christ is, therefore, not a falling short of God’s best, but a path of Christ-exalting, covenant-keeping obedience that many are called to walk.

• Married or Single: For Better or Worse: This article is Piper’s response to some of the questions and misunderstandings from the above sermon.

Barry Danylak: A Biblical-Theological Perspective on Singleness

Biblical reflection on the theological significance of singleness also presents a challenge for the church. . . . The primary task of the church (beyond worship and glorification of God) is to raise and nurture spiritual children in making disciples (Matt 28:19). As such we recognize that the present world is not our home but we are aliens and sojourners (1 Pet 2:11) awaiting our inheritance which is kept in heaven (1 Pet 1:4). But if the primary call to the church is a spiritual task, then who is better to dedicate themselves to this task than those who are undistracted by the burdens of home and family? Thus the single person has theological challenge which is also posed by Scriptures. If they have the ability to remain single (and if they do, this is good), then they in fact also have a greater responsibility to invest themselves in service to the kingdom of God.

In addition, the presence and ministry of single people is vital for the Church in another sense. It is a visible reminder that the kingdom of God points to a reality which stands beyond worldly pre-occupations of marriage, family and career. The gospel message of the Kingdom of God stands for and represents something greater than all the blessings and satisfactions which the present world has to offer. Encouraging men and women to remain single for the sake of the kingdom is a tangible way by which the Church demonstrates this truth.

Mark Driscoll: Traditional Family Households Now the American Minority

Is your church family-friendly? Does your church provide family programming? Does your church defend family values? If so, you may be guaranteeing yourself a perilous future. According to recently released 2005 Census Bureau data, for the first time ever the traditional marriage is no longer the preferred living arrangement in the majority of U.S. households.

Just six years ago, married couples made up 52 percent of American households. Today, that number has dipped to 49.8 percent of the 105.5 million American households. Meanwhile, the percentage of other households has climbed to 50.2 percent. Those households include 36.7 million households where heterosexual or gay couples cohabitate together out of wedlock, 14 million households headed by single women, and 5 million households headed by single men. There are also 30 million households with unmarried men and women living alone; they are not categorized as families at all.

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In conclusion, churches that want to reach the growing number of singles will have to examine everything from their promotions to staffing to programming or risk not reaching what has suddenly become the majority of Americans.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss:

• Receiving Singleness as a Gift from God - Part One
• Receiving Singleness as a Gift from God - Part Two

See also:

• Boudless Line:
  • Being Single is Better says Piper
  • Mohler Versus Piper on Singleness

• NYTimes: 51% of Women Are Now Living Without Spouse

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